By Kim Forrest
The letter you write to your future spouse on your wedding day should be thoughtful, full of love, and totally from the heart. With that being said, we do have a few rules and tips to making sure your wedding letter is a total success.
We love the tradition of couples exchanging sweet wedding letters on the day they get married. Whether the wedding letters are funny, emotional, or a combination of the two, writing a wedding letter to your bride or groom is a great way to “communicate” if you haven’t seen each other since the day before — and the reactions are often priceless. Even if you’re not an avid writer, you can still create a wedding letter that your bride or groom will treasure. Check out our wedding letter writing tips to help rid you of that pesky writers’ block!
Here are a few how-tos for writing a heartfelt love letter to your bride or groom on the wedding day.
Have a plan in place
If you would like to exchange letters the morning of your wedding, discuss it with your partner in advance. Your future spouse may not be aware of this tradition, so while pre-planning removes the element of surprise, it will ensure that you’ll each write and receive a wedding letter on the big day.
Brainstorm in advance
Start thinking about your wedding letter a few weeks before the big day, considering details and anecdotes you might like to include. Keep a running list of ideas on your phone or in a notebook so you won’t forget anything once you sit down to write that wedding letter to your bride or groom.
Find a quiet writing spot
While you can write your wedding letter days (or weeks!) before the big day, we think it’s a nice tradition to actually write that letter to your almost wife or husband the night before or the morning of your wedding. Your emotion will be at its peak, and the feeling is sure to come through in your writing. We understand that things may be a bit crazy the morning of your wedding, but it’s important for you to have some private time to both collect yourself and to write your wedding letter. Our recommendation — write the letter shortly after you wake up the morning of your wedding, taking advantage of your last few moments of “alone time.”
Use nice stationery
You’ll be extra-excited to write that letter to your bride or groom on the wedding day if you’re using beautiful stationery and a new pen. It seems minor, but will make the experience feel that much more enjoyable. You can either buy a card with a message that sums up your feelings (though you should still include a handwritten note) or write your own wedding letter on plain stationery.
Share your feelings
Start off your wedding letter by sharing how you’re feeling at that moment, emphasizing the excitement you’re probably feeling about becoming your beloved’s husband or wife in just a few short hours. Are you feeling overjoyed? Emotional? Even if you’re not the type of person to wear your emotions on your sleeve, now is the time to spill.
Praise your partner
Take a few moments to talk about what you love about your future spouse. Is it their kindness and sense of humor? Their loyalty to family and friends? Feel free to use personal anecdotes to make your point. Here’s a sample of what to include in that letter to your bride or groom on the wedding day, “I love how you always protect me—even if it’s from a spider while I’m in the shower!” or “You’ve been my rock during difficult times and I am so grateful to you for that.”
Tell a story
If you’re feeling stumped, think of a single story that really sums up your future spouse’s best qualities. Was it the time he drove three hours to help you dig your car out of the snow? Or the time she sat by your sick grandmother’s bedside and read to her for an afternoon? Think about the moments that really defined you as a couple—and take this opportunity to show your appreciation.
Talk about the future
Your wedding day is not only about celebrating your past, but also about looking forward to an incredible future together. In the wedding letter to your bride or groom, talk about the things you’re looking forward to in both the short term (your wedding and honeymoon!) and the long term (buying a house, starting a family, traveling together, etc.).
Don’t be afraid to be cheesy
You’re talking about the love of your life here, so this is the time to use a bit of flowery language and lots of lovey-dovey words, even if it’s not usually your style. You can end the wedding letter with a sweet “I can’t wait to start our life together” or “See you at the end of the aisle!” — a little sappy, but certainly meaningful and sweet.
It’s a letter, not a school paper
Don’t worry too much about spelling and grammar. If you make a mistake in your wedding letter, don’t feel like you have to start the whole thing over again — just cross it out and keep writing. Your almost-spouse will love your note the same way he/she loves you — flaws and all.
Keep it short and sweet
Try to keep your wedding letter to about a page, if possible. Time will be of the essence on your wedding day, and you don’t want to spend hours writing and reading notes.
Find a trusted “letter carrier”
Seal the wedding letter to your bride or groom in an envelope and give to a trusted friend or family member to deliver to your partner. This wedding letter is super-personal, and you don’t want your nosy little cousin reading it before the intended recipient does!