If your venue is not available for a Saturday wedding, you might just opt for a Friday or Sunday. But sometimes that isn’t always an option. Don’t be scared of weekday weddings! It is important to be open minded, especially right now! Many 2020 weddings have been postponed due to the corona-virus, and need to be rescheduled. That is quite a few weddings, which means dates are going fast. If your weekend date didn’t work out, don’t worry! Here are a few reasons to consider a weekday wedding.
They are trending in 2020!
Many people are looking for dates to reschedule their big day, so don’t feel weird about having a weekday wedding, they are going to be pretty common this year.
Most people have or are going to change their date
One in five are changing their wedding date, and between the months of May to December 2020, over 63,000 couples have now set ceremony dates for Mondays. Talk it out with your partner and really decide what is more important, the date or the venue?
You Can Change the Format of the Events
With a weekday wedding there is flexibility with scheduling events. Welcome party, wedding, brunch. Give your guests some unexpected moments! If you were going to have a welcome dinner the day before the wedding, maybe change it to a post wedding dinner. That way you can get a chance to reconnect after a night of fun and keep celebrating!
Weekday Weddings Work!
If you are unable to get your desired weekend date then you should start looking at other days of the week, specifically Mondays. A Monday wedding increases the chance that your original team of vendors will be available. It also follows a weekend, which will give your guests time to travel and settle. You might also plan a warm welcome party where your loved ones can connect and really prepare themselves for your big day!
A day so magnificent should be shared with ALL your friends and family. Yes, I am talking about your life long four-legged bestie. Ideally, every engaged couple would want them by their side. But let’s be real, a lot of times this isn’t always practical. Have no fear, here are 8 totally adorable ways you can also include your pet in your wedding!
Have your pet attend the wedding!
Remember that there are plenty of variables that will determine whether your pet will be able to attend. Some things include the location, venue, and obviously your pet! Really make sure consider your pet’s character when reading about these next few ideas. Don’t think that just because you don’t have a dog or cat, that you can’t bring your pet. Many couples have brought their horses, rabbits and goats with them on their big day!
Walk down the aisle together
Your furry companion has been there for you during the good and bad times. So, they definitely need to be present for the “I dos” just imagine how memorable!
Dress up your furry friend!
Dress your pup up in a matching bow tie of the groomsmen or a little doggy dress so she could be an honorary flower girl!
Include them in a few pictures!
Even if your pet can’t make it down the aisle, you can still have forever lasting memories by including them in pictures!
Make them the ring bearer
Have a custom pillow made for your fur baby to carry down the aisle. (Of course, entrust the real rings to the best man)
Mention them in the ceremony
One of the easiest ways to include your pet in your wedding is by mentioning them in your ceremony! You could also reserve a seat for them just so they are in spirit!
Incorporate them into your cake
Another simple way to have your bestie with you on your big day is to add them in your wedding cake! You can ask your baker to incorporate your furry friend or even get an animal cake topper!
Include them in your decorations!
There are so many ways you can give your pet some spotlight when adding them to your stationary! It could be as simple as putting up a cute display or adding pictures together on your save the dates!
Drawing up the details of your wedding all starts with choosing the right colors! Wedding colors can majorly impact your look and how you feel on your big day, so you should take your time making right decision. Knowing how to pick your wedding colors is often easier said than done. But don’t worry! Here are a few tips on how to begin your thought process!
Choose a main color and get inspired!
When thinking about your wedding colors, you need to choose one main color in order to build the rest of your palette. Base colors can range from anywhere on the color wheel! It all just depends on the kind of aesthetic you are going for. But most importantly, make sure that it is something that YOU absolutely love!
Decide on what kind of style/aesthetic you want
How do you want your friends and family to feel on your wedding day? More importantly, how do YOU want to feel on your wedding day? Creating an aesthetic with visually appealing colors can bring beauty to your whole venue. Perhaps you want an elegant palette, with deep and rich colors of ruby, emerald, and sapphire. Or maybe you want a light passionate palette with pretty pastels. Get creative with it! Decide what kind of style are you going for and make it your own. Really think about the atmosphere you want to have on your big day!
Consider your venue
Next, think about your venue and its surroundings. Is your venue an open ballroom style with empty white walls? If so, then choose your colors freely and get creative! Other venues such as hotels, cathedrals, and country clubs usually tend to have their own little decorations. If that’s the case, then look at what colors are already in place and incorporate those into your palette. You want to make sure that your palette complements your venue and vice versa.
What Season is it?
Think about the time of the year and what colors will flow. For instance, lighter colors like a rosy blush would be perfect for spring, and in the summer, brighter colors like a saffron yellow would pop! Maybe you want the fall seasonal standard of sea buttery neutrals and monochromatic darks, or the cool light pastels for winter. Whatever the season, be sure not to diss the colors you absolutely love just because of the seasonal rules!
Choosing your colors should be something fun and inspirational, don’t get too caught up in having every single detail matching. Give your look some variety! Also, don’t be afraid to be a little selfish, choose colors that will flatter YOU! Use your palette as more of a guideline rather than a regulation, and lastly have fun with it!
THE VENUE: Bissinger’s Caramel Roomwebsite THE CATERING: 23 City Blocks website THE DJ: Allegro Entertainment website THE PLANNER: Aaren Muex / Divine Events website THE CAKE: Celebrating Life Cakes website BOSNIAN DESSERTS: Zlatne Kapi website THE HAIR/MAKE-UP: Refeyeance website THE DRESS: Bridal Manor website THE SUIT: Downtown Tailoring website THE FLORALS: Alex Waldbart Florist website THE DECOR: An Affair To Remember website THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Arndt Photo & Cinema website THE REHEARSAL DINNER: Lemmons website
the dream proposal:
Amir and I love to travel. It’s not an uncommon occurrence for me to come home from work on a Friday evening to Amir asking, “want to go somewhere this weekend?”. It wasn’t out of the ordinary for Amir to plan a week-long trip but leave the destination a surprise as it also happened to be the week of my 30th birthday. Amir had recently been asking a lot about camping, so my inquisitive mind was certain I had it all figured out. We packed up our pups and hit the road. We arrived in Saugatuck, a picturesque little town on Lake Michigan. We stayed in a beautiful farmhouse with a secret garden feel. Our first evening it rained, so Amir surprised me with an itinerary he had created. This isn’t his norm. I immediately thought, he is going to propose on Wednesday on the retro boat ride he had planned. Despite the rain that evening, Amir was insistent on driving by the beach. I wondered how he came across this charming little town. Knowing him and his love for researching things, I wasn’t the least bit surprised. Fast-forward to Tuesday and I know tomorrow will be the day that he is going to propose. We visit the beach at evening to catch a glimpse of the sunset. Amir is insistent we go see the sunset. We walk the beach and make our way up to a pier that overlooks the beach. We had both been taking photos of the sunset, but Amir had asked if he could take a photo of the sunset through my phone. Thinking nothing out of the ordinary, I turn back toward the beach. When I turned back around, I see him on one knee. My heart was smiling. I was so shocked I couldn’t say YES fast enough!
what was your favorite wedding day memory?
Amir: One of my favorite moments from our wedding was hearing the how heartfelt Lynlee’s vows were Another favorite moment was from the day of our rehearsal. Lynlee surprised me with a Groom’s Cake that looked like a Bosnian coffee pot and cup. We rode to rehearsal together but had to pick something up before. She wouldn’t tell me what. She drove and had me ride all the way with my eyes closed. We are terrible at keeping surprises from each other. She couldn’t wait until dinner to show me the amazing cake she had made for me! Lynlee: It’s so hard to pick just ONE favorite memory. I often ask Amir when we can have another wedding because it was so amazing and fun. I decided last minute to wear my veil over my face, something we didn’t really practice or talk about. I texted him to let him know, but he didn’t see the message. Amir looked surprised when I made it down the aisle. I had to whisper to him a couple of times to flip the veil back! Our favorite memory collectively has to be, our officiant, who is also a friend of ours got caught up in the moment and forgot to tell people to be seated! Luckily, it was a short ceremony. She realized mid-way through the ceremony, and I couldn’t help but chuckle as she whispered her realization. We all get a good chuckle out of this!
where did you go on your honeymoon?
Our honeymoon was nothing short of magical. Before our real adventure began, we immersed ourselves in one of Scandinavia’s most beautiful cities, Stockholm. Here we enjoyed traditional Swedish cuisine and some of Stockholm’s many museums. From Stockholm we traveled to Helsinki, Finland before making our way to the far North above the Arctic Circle. We experienced an Arctic winter with well below freezing temperatures, frozen seas, and snow more than four feet tall. On multiple occasions, we were fortunate to witness one of the worlds most beautiful natural phenomena, the Northern Lights. An adrenaline-charged evening of mushing a team of sled dogs to a calm relaxing sleigh ride led by reindeer, our honeymoon was full of new explorations. Traveling more than 100 km by snowmobile, we explored Lapland’s snowy forests and frozen lakes and swamps. We spent some nights in all glass igloos not to obstruct the sensational views of the dark night sky. However, it wasn’t all comfort on our Honeymoon! We spent a couple of nights “cold”. We spent nights in both a snow hotel and an ice hotel, where the temperatures remain a constant -5 to -8C. Despite being cold those were experiences we didn’t want to miss. One last thing we couldn’t miss while on our honeymoon, visiting the official hometown of Santa and meeting Santa Claus himself!
how was your experience with allegro?
When we first started talking about music selections, we thought “how hard can it be?”. We are so thankful to Allegro for easing this process tremendously! The packet is beyond helpful and having preset due dates is honestly a stress reliever. When we needed help working through something, Dori was able to guide us. Eric was our DJ. He called a few days before to work through things with us, how we may want things announced, pronunciation of names just to be sure, among a few other things. We had some not so typical requests such as traditional Bosnian music, but Allegro did everything to make sure we found what we were looking for. Needless to say, he did an awesome job!
did you enjoy working with divine events?
Aaren Muex with Divine Events was AMAZING! When we first asked Allegro about Day-Of-Coordinating, we were referred to her, and booked with her that same weekend. Aaren was really the glue that held everything together, and made sure that our night turned out perfect! From coordinating everything, to her extreme attention to detail, we could not have had such as amazing and relaxing time without her and her team’s support! We would not have had as smooth and perfect of a wedding without her♥
give us a post-wedding update…
Life is flying by! We were fortunate to have family from Europe here for our wedding. We loved getting to spend time with them and show them some of our favorite places in the city after the wedding. We waited to honeymoon so we could spend time with our visiting European family, so we just returned from our honeymoon mid-February. One of our favorite things post wedding is getting to refer to each other is “husband” and “wife”. We are hoping to get back to traveling as soon as possible. Exploring the world is one of our favorite ways to spend time together. We travel with our boxer, Lenox, and our goldendoodle, Sanders, whenever we can. In the meantime, we are learning a new language together!
So you’ve just had the best day of your life, but it’s not over quite yet. The DJ has just announced that he’s getting ready to play the last song of the night, and you are gathered on the dance floor with your new Husband/Wife, surrounded by all of your friends and family…. What song will be played?
At Allegro Entertainment, we have built in a 3 month planning process with every one of our wedding packages. We provide our clients with planning documents, an online client portal to keep things organized, and multiple meetings to discuss such details.
Just like all the other music you choose to implement into your wedding day experience, it’s important to select a Last Song of the Night that has meaning to you. Maybe it’s a silly song that reminds you of an inside joke, a song that was always played at the college bar where you two met, or maybe it’s just a popular song with fitting lyrics that indicate the ending of the evening. Whatever the title, whatever the reason, the Last Song of the Night should be something you have put some thought into.
To help give you a head start in brainstorming, we’ve compiled the TOP 10 Most Popular Last Song options we see our couples choose…
THE VENUE: Redemption Ranch website THE CATERING: Sugar Fire website THE CAKE: Mad House Cakery website THE HAIR & MAKE-UP: Bliss Beauty Bar website THE BRIDAL DRESS: David’s Bridal website THE GROOM’S SUIT: Suits4Men website THE DISC JOCKEY: Allegro Entertainment website THE PHOTOGRAPHY: Lauren Muckler website THE PHOTOBOOTH: Top Notch Photobooth website THE FLOWERS: She’s Crafty Floral Design website THE TRANSPORTATION: Limo 41 website
…But through my laughter, and tears of joy, I said YES!
Tell us about the proposal….
We got engaged on September 16th 2018 when we were half way through a two week vacation in Scotland. Little did Lacey know, during the entire trip, Dan was carrying the ring around in his hiking bag just waiting for the right time to pop the question.
It all happened when we were enjoying a hike up to Fairy Pools on the Isle of Skye; a favorite hot spot for tourists due to the layers and layers of small waterfalls. At the start of our hike, the weather was cloudy and raining, but we decided to tough it out. Once the weather started to clear up, we noticed a nice vantage point over a waterfall that was the perfect spot to stop for a great picture!
Dan asked me if I wanted to take a photo, and handed his phone to my sister. I’m glad she was there to be able to capture the proposal. Funniest part about it was, since it just rained – the rocks were a little slick. When Dan went down to get on one knee, he slipped a little and almost went for a swim!!! But through my laughter, and tears of joy, I said YES!!!!
What Was your favorite wedding moment?
My favorite part was getting ready and taking those pictures. It was a special moment for me because seeing Lacey in her wedding dress had been seven years in the making. The feeling was indescribable! My other favorite moment was taking all of the photos. It was a very relaxing time with all of our closest friends and family with us before the craziness of the wedding. -Dan
My favorite part was marring my best friend! I loved how we both wrote a note to each other and stood back to back before we looked at one another for the first time. It was very special. -Lacey
where did you go on your honeymoon?
We went to Sandals Resort on the Island of Grenada, and it was great! The weather was perfect, and the staff couldn’t have been better. We LOVED the resort’s water volleyball net set up. If there was a game going on, you bet we were playing!
One of our favorite excursions was the dune biggie trip around the island. We saw pretty much the whole island, and even drove on the streets in town! The highlight of that excursion was the last stop at a natural waterfall, on one of the highest points of the island. It was nice to get off of the resort and see what else Grenada had to offer.
Another favorite trip was an afternoon on a snorkeling/catamaran. For that, we sailed over to a special spot where there was an underwater statue exhibit, which also had some of the most colorful fish and sea life we’ve ever seen! Then after the snorkeling, the captain took us to the other side of the island where we had a grilled lobster lunch and waded around on the shore.
how was your experience with allegro?
We thought the experience was great! From the planning process with Dori, where she asked questions to get some back ground on us, helped with setting up our songs, and working with the DJ on the night of our wedding – everything went super smooth.
We appreciated how much Allegro helped us pick out wedding music, and creating a nice flow to the ceremony. DJ Eric was also phenomenal! He played a great mix of all of our favorite types of music and had a good sense about when to slow it down and when to keep the dancing going.
how’s married life going?
We are relaxing now with no extra stress of planning the wedding, and just enjoying life. We are currently looking to buy our first house together… We’ll need one that has a big back yard for our two beautiful dogs.
On behalf of myself, DJ Eric, and the entire Allegro Team, we had a wonderful time planning your wedding day, and bringing your fairytale to life, through music! From all of us at Allegro Entertainment, we wish you two all the happiness and many blessings in your married life! Thank you for choosing Allegro Entertainment, and we look forward to hearing updates as your love story continues!
When the party comes to an end, what better way to say Sayonara the going out in style! We’ve compiled the TOP 5 fun and fabulous send-off ideas for your wedding…
sensational sparkler send-off
If you’re looking for a razzle-dazzle send-off to wrap up your wedding night, it’s got to be sparklers! The excitement of cheerful pom-poms dancing you to your car is the perfect way to cap off an epic evening. Here are a few tips to pull off this fashionable farewell:
GET APPROVAL: Since sparklers are considered a fire hazard, you’ll need to make sure that your wedding venue allows them…..This MUST be your first step.
CREATE A TEAM: Time is of the essence, and to create a perfectly choreographed photo or video, you need to make sure everyone has their sparklers lit at the same time. To do this, you’ll want to delegate 5-6 friends to run the show. They will be responsible for lining up your guests into two rows, AND synchronizing the cue to light.
PRO FIRE: Forget about matches or lighters… those can blow out at the slightest breeze, and take too long to light. You’ll want to purchase firework spunks OR canned sternos to be used as your fire source. Your “Sparkler Team” will be in charge of lighting these, and sharing the flame with your guests, at the proper time.
SAFEFY FIRST! Without a doubt, you will need to have buckets of water on hand for guests to put out their sparklers, or to use in case anything goes off course. Make a trip to your local dollar store and pick up 4-5 buckets….Maybe even find some in your wedding colors!!! Your “Sparkler Team” will fill them with water and bring them outside in preparation, before sending guests outside.
vintage tin can congrats
Let’s go back to a throw back! Nothing symbolizes a newlywed couple like a car rolling down the street with the cling-clang-congratulations of tin cans tied to the back bumper. It’s a classic! Speaking of classic, bonus points if you and your love-bug think ahead to rent a vintage vehicle as your getaway car! Check out the beauties available through BEST Transportation in St. Louis, MO.
go-go with glow sticks
Not into the whole “lighting things on fire” route, no problem! Glow sticks are a cool and colorful alternative to sparklers, PLUS they’re affordable AND double as a take home favor for your friends and family. Wait until you see these personalized options at ExtremeGlow.com.
bye bye birdie
Wanna be a sweety to tweety? Have your wedding guests toss bird seed in lieu of rice or confetti. For one, you’ll be offering up some yum-yums for the feathery friends who attended your wedding uninvited, AND two, your send-off will be MUCH more earth friendly than a tornado of torn-up tinsel.
lifting up love with lanterns
HELLO HOLLYWOOD MAGIC! Cue the romantic movie music♥ Lantern send-offs are by far, THE MOST fairy-tail too-da-loo of all time! The whimsical drifting and lifting of candle light, painting a dreamy display across the night sky, is a breathtaking sight to share with loved ones. Here’s the catch…. these fire filled floaters are banned in most counties due to the nature of them being paper…. on fire…. freely flying overhead. Need I say more?
….Just be sure to check with your venue before planning any special send-off, of any kind. You’ll want to fully understand all rules and regulations so you can have a heads up, before you head out.
Today’s world is completely upside down, and everything that we knew as “normal” seems far away….BUT FEAR NOT!
As we all start adapting to these temporary societal changes, the world is still spinning, babies are still being born, the sun is still shining, and your wedding plans should continue. We’ve compiled the TOP 5 REASONS why you do not want to hit pause on the wedding planning train just yet… Choo CHOO!
1. availability is limited
As you know, all events between March – May 2020 had to be either cancelled or rescheduled due to COVID19. In most cases, weddings were rescheduled for Fall/Winter 2020, and Spring/Summer 2021. What does this mean for you? It means that most of the wedding vendors on your wish list have dates that are filling up QUICKLY or may no longer be available for your wedding date! EEEK!!! This is the time, more than ever, to be checking in with your vendors of choice, to see what availability they have so you don’t miss the opportunity to secure them for your wedding date.
2. rushing causes panic
Even though you might feel like waiting, time keeps ticking forward. There are 24 hours in every day, 7 days in a week, and the months keep passing by quickly, whether we want them to or not. The last thing anyone needs right now is self-induced panic caused by procrastination, and last minute rushing! Putting things off never makes anything easier. It’s always smarter to work on planning a little bit at a time, so everything gets accomplished at a smooth and methodical pace. This same concept can be applied to balancing out your budget! When you pay off small chunks at a time, it alleviates the overwhelming feeling of having to face a huge sum at the end.
3. so many special offers!
If you’re not taking advantage of all of the amazing special offers and discounts that wedding vendors are offering right now, YOU’RE MISSING OUT! Whether it’s a FREE upgrade, or a percentage OFF of services, this is the BEST time for couples to save money while booking the vendors on their wish list! For most companies, the time is running out, and offers will be ending at the end of May, so it’s time to shop around and get the deals! STL Weddings Stimulus Plans – Special Offers
4. the end is in sight
It’s been nuts, but we’ve all been troopers through the social restrictions enforced by local governments…. BUT THE END IS IN SIGHT!!!!! We are thrilled to hear rumors of the bans being lifted by middle of May, so we’re staying hopeful that events & weddings will be resuming in June. Like anything, COVID19 will come to an end, and life will resume. The pandemic will leave us just as quickly as it approached us. All of this is temporary. In other words, “This Too Shall Pass”.
5. why wait when love is ready?
There was a moment in life when it hit you. OMG!!! I’M IN LOVE, AND THIS IS MY PERSON!!!! When you know, you know, and nothing else matters. Just like time, there’s no turning back. So why wait? Once you’ve made that decision to spend the rest of your life with your incredible, magical, nothing-compares-to-the-feeling-I-get-when-I’m-with-you PERSON, start making plans towards your Happily Ever After! ….We’ll be here to help!
The conservationist married her fiancé at Australia Zoo on March 25, hours before the Australian government enforced a lockdown amid the coronavirus pandemic. “There are no words to describe the amount of love and light in my heart right now,” she wrote via Instagram. “We’ve planned this beautiful day for nearly a year and had to change everything, as we didn’t have guests at our wedding. This was a very difficult decision but important to keep everyone safe.”
Credit: Courtesy of Russell Shakespeare
Brittany Snow and Tyler Stanaland
The couple tied the knot in a romantic wedding ceremony in Southern California on March 14. The bride’s dog, Billie, walked down the aisle at the couple’s ceremony, which was attended by about 120 guests. The Pitch Perfect actress and the realtor got engaged in February 2019.
Credit: Christopher Polk/Variety/Shutterstock
Faith Jenkins and Kenny Lattimore
Us exclusively confirmed that the Divorce Court judge and the singer wed at the First Congregational Church of Los Angeles on March 8. Stevie Wonder sang “You and I” as the bride walked down the aisle.
Credit: Courtesy Faith Jenkins
JJ Lane and Kayla Hughes
The Bachelorette alum married the former NFL cheerleader in a romantic ceremony in Denver on February 29. Guests included several Bachelor Nation favorites including Jared Haibon, Ashley Iaconetti, Ben Higgins, Clint Arlis, and Tanner Tolbert and Jade Roper, whose toddler daughter Emmy was a flower girl at the ceremony. Lane and Hughes, who went public with their relationship in September 2017, got engaged in Hawaii in January 2019. Lane romanced Kaitlyn Bristowe on The Bachelorette and later appeared on Bachelor in Paradise.
Credit: Courtesy of Kayla Hughes/Instagram
JJ Watt and Kealia Ohai
The Houston Texans defensive end married the pro soccer player in the Bahamas on February 15. “Best day of my life. Without question,” he captioned a series of wedding photos via Instagram.
Credit: Courtesy of Kim Schaffer
Pamela Anderson and Jon Peters
On January 20, Pamela Anderson and Hollywood producer Jon Peters — whom she had dated 30 years prior — tied the knot in a ceremony in Malibu. “He’s been there all along. Never failed me – I’m ready now and he’s ready too,” she said in a statement to The Hollywood Reporter at the time. “We understand and respect each other. We love each other without conditions. I’m a lucky woman. Proof God has a plan.”
Credit: BabiradPicture/Shutterstock; Jim Smeal/BEI/Shutterstock
Kathy Griffin and Randy Bick
The comedian married her longtime boyfriend shortly after midnight on New Year’s Day. Lily Tomlin officiated the 14-minute ceremony.
Credit: Courtesy of Kathy Griffin/Instagram
Kylie Bunbury and Jon-Ryan Alan Riggins
The Pitch alum married her boyfriend in Madeira Island, Portugal, on New Year’s Day. “Roaring Love • 1-1-2020,” Bunbury wrote alongside wedding pics via Instagram.
Credit: Courtesy of Kylie Bunbury/Instagram
Vanessa Morgan and Michael Kopech
The Riverdale star and the baseball pro tied the knot in front of 35 of their closest family and friends at the Historic Walton House in Florida on January 4.
Credit: Courtesy of Vanessa Morgan/Instagram
Tim Tebow and Demi-Leigh Nel-Peters
The athlete and the model wed in Cape Town in her native South Africa on January 20.
It’s only the biggest day of your life and you’ve got one chance to get your wedding vows right. No pressure, huh? Whether you’re writing your own or going the traditional route, take our word for it: you’ll want to be as prepared as possible. And no, that doesn’t just mean practicing them out loud. From what you say to exactly how you say it, here are common wedding vow mistakes all couples should avoid making.
1. Going On and On (and On and On)
Keep it short and sweet, recommends Dezhda “Dee” Gaubert, owner of No Worries Event Planning. “Only talk about one thing you love the most about your partner, one personality trait you like best or one example of his commitment to you, not two, three, four or five. There is more emotional impact and power with brevity.” Plus, your guests will start to lose interest fast once you get beyond the 200-300 word range.
2. Getting Too Personal
TMI! Some couples write what is essentially a love letter to each other and not ceremony vows, explains ordained officiant Bethel L. Nathan. “They forget how emotional they might be in the moment so it can be tough to read out loud, not to mention awkward standing there reciting something so personal in front of a big audience.” Lauren Chitwood, owner and founder of Lauren Chitwood Events, agrees. “When writing your wedding vows, remember that your intent is to make the commitment of marriage in front of witnesses,” she says. For this reason, it’s wise to avoid sharing things that would make you so emotional you can’t regain your composure or cracking inside jokes guests won’t get.
3. Waiting Until the Day Before to Write Them
Time is winding down and you still haven’t written your vows…oops! This mistake is all too common, according to Nathan. His recommendation? Write them two weeks out. “It’s close enough to the wedding day for the sentiments to be what you want to express, but far enough out to actually get done and be able to be focused.”
4. A Lack of Consistency in Length
Nothing is more awkward than the bride or groom keeping things short and sweet while the other gives a lengthy speech, says wedding planner Marilisa Schachinger, event planner. “Simply discuss a general timeframe together, like 1-2 minutes, beforehand so that you both share for an equal amount of time, allowing that portion of the ceremony to flow smoothly.”
5. Not Using a Microphone
Especially if you’re having a big wedding. And even if you do have one on hand, oftentimes the couple forgets to speak into the microphone when reciting their vows so no one can actually hear what’s being said, notes wedding planner Leah Weinberg, owner of Color Pop Events. Simple solution: Practice your vows with a microphone so it’s second nature.
6. Wanting to Speak From the Heart…On the Spot
Whatever you do, please don’t try to memorize your vows or simply speak from the heart when the time comes (and if your spouse-to-be thinks this is a good idea, make sure he reads this.). It never goes well, warns Nathan. “With all of the emotions and nerves and excitement running through you the day-of and in that moment, most of the words disappear from memory and rarely is this ever smooth or well done.” His advice? Take the time to write your vows ahead of time and put pen to paper, even if it is just as a backup.
7. Misplacing Your Vows
It happens more than you think. This is why it’s always best to have at least a couple of copies on hand the day of. Houston wedding planner Chelsea Roy of Everything But The Ring suggests giving one copy to your planner or officiant the night before during rehearsal and another to the maid of honor, who can curl it up in her hand with her bouquet and hold it until the time comes, or the best man, who can stick it in his suit pocket for safekeeping. “Give them back to these people or to your officiant after you’ve read them, and be sure they get to a safe place to be saved as a keepsake.”
8. Forgetting the Tissues
Better to be safe than sorry, right? “I’ve had brides give these to their maid of honor or a family member in the front row and they’ve come incredibly handy,” says Gaubert. You can also have your partner put a hanky in their pocket for you just in case.
9. Not Making Eye Contact With Your Partner
One of the most common vow mistakes Becki Smith of Smith House Photography sees as a wedding photographer is the couple telling their vows to the officiant rather than to each other. “This is especially common when brides and grooms are reciting traditional vows where they repeat after the officiant,” she tells us. An easy fix for this, according to her, is to simply ask your officiant to remind you before vows start to join hands and look at each other.